Asalaam Alaikum
One thing I wish I could forget is the hurt caused to me by ‘friends’. I am not trying to ‘big myself up’ but I genuinely care for the people I call friends and would do anything for them if they needed me. I am generous and often put their needs in front of my own.
So it hurts when I feel let down by them. When they are not there for me when I need them. When they turn on me.
I wish I could forget that hurt because now it can affect any friendship I have. I can initially be reserved and it will take a while to let anyone in. If they make one foot wrong I push them out of my life.
Salaam,
I guess the best that we can do is to forgive them every night and be a better person. It's not easy, I know, but there's really no harm in it, right?
Maddy
beautiful text wich say the true š and inshallah you could foget it!
Wa alaikum asalaam!
I think there's a difference between forgiveness and forgetting. I do speak to friends who I have fallen out in the past…so in that sense we have forgiven each other. However, I still remember what happened. As a result of what happened I now don't always let people in as much as I used to
Yeah, it can be tough forgetting what others have said/done to us. It's just like that example. You can drive nails through the fence in anger but when you've cooled down and removed the nails, the holes stay no matter what.
Is that a more apt example?
Maddy
Yes Maddy that's exactly it! I guess I'm trying to stop getting more holes!
So true. May Allah help us and bless us all with great friends. Ameen