Asalaam Alaikum/Hi All
Yes I am guilty of using what are known as the 21st century babysitters – the TV, PC, Wii, Nintendo DS.
So shoot me.
Now don’t get me wrong, munchkin is not permanently stuck in front of technology while I ignore her. However I do use it if there is no alternative and I need to get some housework/cooking done.
Let me give you an idea of my daily routine.
Munchkin has to be in school for 8.45am, I have to be at work for 9am.
I work nonstop from 9am to 3pm and just munch a sandwich at my desk.
Have to pick up munchkin at 3.15pm
We then usually go to my parents house so she can have something to eat and to allow me to have a bit of a breather.
We usually come home for around 5pm.
I then have to cook, (I hate cooking) before hubby gets home which can be anytime between 6.30 to 8pm, clean and basically do anything that needs doing. I usually make enough food to last 2 days so I am not cooking every evening after work. I also try to get as much done as I can over the weekends.
Even if we are home and I need to do some housework I always push her to go into the garden if the weather is nice. She then proceeds to terrorise the rabbit who is usually running around so I reckon he would prefer it if she was sat in front of the PC/TV!
Now this is the bit where this post turns into a bit of a rant.
I am sick of unmarried, or newly married girls, or the new parents, or the ‘perfect parents’ with their smug attitudes ‘Oh I would never let my child sit in front of the TV to keep them entertained while I do other things. You could always do housework when the child is asleep or at school..’
They make you feel as if you are being a bad parent. Frankly, it irritates the life out of me when people who do not have children feel they can comment on how you raise your child or how they would raise their child in the future (they will soon learn!). But I find the ‘perfect parents’ even more irritating. They literally look down their noses at you.
Munchkin has always been a bit of a late sleeper and most evenings is awake until 9pm. Even if I put her in bed at 7.30, she is usually still awake an hour later. (Ohhh another reason for the perfect parents to frown).
So if I waited till she slept before I did anything then frankly I would be up all night and I would never have any relaxing time!
Oh and then not to forget fellow sisters who turn round and say well as a muslim woman your husband should provide for you and you shouldn’t have to work – so you can stay home and do the chores while she is at school. If only life was as black and white as that.
I like to have a nice comfortable life and I like to have my own money to do with as I please. So if I want to splash out on a new car I can do, if I want to give to charity I can do etc etc. And I can do all this without asking hubby’s permission or asking him for money (before anyone gets outraged and says I am not being a good wife, I DO consult him on major purchases ie the car).
We would struggle with just my hubby’s salary and to be honest I enjoy working. I cannot sit at home and be a housewife.
That is not me and never will be. I am not a house wifey kind of person at all! Not that I have anything against housewifes, see my post here.
I do not feel that munchkin is being deprived of my love and attention just because every now and then I will stick on CBeebies on the TV or on the PC, or I will let her play the Wii or the DS while I am busy around the house. So I will continue to use my reliable ‘babysitters’ as and when needed.
So all those who look down on parents who use technology as babysitters at times, all I will say is, ‘Wind your necks in!’