Why so negative?

What we focus on, we empower and enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?
Asalaam Alaikum/Hi all
I think I need to tattoo that quote on my forehead. Or at the very least print it out, enlarge it and stick in on the wall as a constant reminder. 
I really do not know what has been wrong with me for the past month or so. I have just been focusing on the negative aspects to my life and end up thinking ‘Is this it? There must be more to life then this?’
I have been feeling stressed, restless and every little thing has been annoying me.
I am not quite sure what has led me to hit this all time low. But I am struggling to get out of it. Last weekend I just wanted to get in my car and drive……and not look back.
I am guessing that I have finally gotten overwhelmed with everything that is currently going on with my family. (Long story – family dramas!) That in turn has just led me to over analyse the things in my life that I am not happy with. Which has then made me feel completely unsatisfied with my life, so much so that I find myself constantly annoyed at hubby and irritated at munchkin.
Someone come and give me a slap. (I won’t hit back I promise!)
I need to start focusing on the positives in my life and be grateful for what I have. It is not as though there aren’t any positives.
Easier said than done though when you are feeling like this.

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  • I know this feeling so well, but now I slap myself when I dive in negative thoughts. It is not productive at all.
    Not so long ago I read an article saying that whenever you think about something negative, you attract more negative in your life. And to end this vicious circle you have to analyse your negative thought and turn it into a positive one and give thanks.
    When you start doing this every singe time, you'll see things will change. You'll be more keen to see the positive even in difficult situations. It's practice but it's worth it.

    Great quote you share there – should stick it on my wall too when I start to feel down.

    May God help you to focus on the positive and give you strength to face the challenges. Take care

  • Virtual slap coming right up…you promised no hit backs, lol.

    Seriously though, I can relate to this Foz, sometimes I feel so overwhelmed. All I can say is that is is good to feel and then move on. Don't deny feeling.

    Thanks for sharing the quote, and the context behind it with us.


  • ** Sa'dia proceeds to slap Foz hard on the face** — There, that should make you feel better… lol.. Just joking 🙂

    Theres a hadeeth to the effect that we should look at those below us in terms of worldly matters as this will make us realise how truly blessed we are. It enables us to see those people who are in a much worse off situation than we are in. But i guess its natural for us to just feel low and down sometimes, it just musnt be that we remain in that kind of a mood. We should try and snap out of it as soon as possible. But as you said, easier said than done! I know im guilty of it as well. But i do hope you soon can get rid of these negative emotions that are overwhelming you!

  • I have moments like this every now and them as well. I have to find something to snap myself out of it though as being miserable is not good for anyone, and it can just be a downward spiral. Have your thoughts, if necessary cry and stamp your feet then take stock of all the good things in your life and have a good laugh. Its amazing how much better you feel after a good laugh.

  • Assalamualikum Foz, welcome to the community. This will come more often as you have more kids, meaning more chores. It get worst when the kids become teenagers. Just be grateful to Allah we are not in worst situation. There was this mother of 11, divorced by her hubby without money without love to children. She has to work really hard to make ends meet. I sometimes slap my own face, to remind myself how fortunate I am. Alhamdulillah…

  • I'm sorry you're feeling this way at the minute, it is hard to shake the negitivity once you start pondering on things you're not happy with, but I guess you know your doing it and that should help you somewhat, keep remembering them positive things and it will start to look brighter xx

  • Thanks for the support everyone! x

    And Ilove the way Salma and Sa'dia were fully prepared to give me a slap! lol

    I generally get low during the monthly time but this time I went low and was stuck feeling low.

    I just need to be grateful for what I have, and I have plenty that I have to be grateful for. Alhamdulillah!

  • Assalamu alaikum. 🙂
    When I feel really negative, I pray for it to go away, sometimes not just a dua but a 2 rakat prayer. One of my friends, suggested I listen to the Quran. Sometimes, I sleep it off. Or just say the 1st Kalima. I know these may or may not be effective for you but I will pray for you.
    Humans do have limits and temper too. It's good that you recognized it and deal with it.
    Else, Allah ta'ala knows best.

  • I'd give you a slap with a tuna fish for more dramatic effect, but I don't have a tuna fish anywhere in my belongings. Instead I'll just chuck bit of sandwhich tuna at you :P. Or maybe not, coz then you'd smell.

    Falling into negativity is like rolling down a hill, so easy and so quick. The path of positivity is like the climb on the way back, so much more difficult.

    There's a post I want to share with you in regards to thinking that I once did. It's not much writing, just a powerpoint that'll raise some interesting points. Click here

  • Wa alaikum asalaam Aasiyah, Thank you for your comments on how you deal with your negative thoughts. Will try some of the suggestions.

    @Nas Trust you to take the slap further!