Failing as a parent

Have you ever felt as though you were/are failing as a parent?
Because right now I feel like that. 
A big fat failure.
Not with the baby…she’s just perfect alhamdulillah. Always smiling and cooing away mashAllah.
I am having issues with the 6 (almost 7 year old). I blogged about her before here.
She has started showing serious attitude.
She doesn’t listen and I find myself repeating things over and over again. Don’t do this…and the next day she does it again. I don’t know if she genuinely forgets or if it’s done on purpose to wind me up. I’m leaning towards the latter.
She is a fussy eater. I struggle as to what to feed her. It takes her almost an hour to eat a bowl of cereal in the morning. 
A small bowl. 
I breathe a sigh of relief when she goes to school. Does that make me a bad mum?
And you know how parents say you don’t have favourites? Well right now the baby doesn’t misbehave, doesn’t give me smart alec remarks and smiles lovingly at me………no contest at the moment.
And I feel guilty for even thinking like that.


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  • Salaam alaykum,

    Yes very often. Same story,except that mine is 3 instead of almost 7. insha'Allah everything will be better in some time.

    May Allah make things easier for you. Ameen.

    And No you're not a bad parent.

  • Assalamu Alaykum,
    I know for a fact that being a mum is not easy. She's probably going through a phase, she is picking up things from school, imitating other people. Allah knows best. Maybe, you should have a chat with her before bedtime as if you are chatting to a friend 🙂 sometimes children need this. A mum can also be a friend. You are not a failure sis. May Allah make it easy for you, ameen!!

  • Assalamualeykum!
    I agree with sister Dana, and though I am not even near being a mom yet, as I am only 17, I can tell you that when your mom REALLY and SINCERELY has a talk with you as a friend, meaning with NO prejudgment whatsoever, just like Rasulullah, peace be upon him, did with all of his sahaba and sahabiyaat, then it can work wonders inshaAllahu Ta'ala.
    May Allah make it easy for you dear sis 🙂

  • I feel the same way most days with Roo, she has such attitude with everything she says and does, heartbreaking