With my eldest turning 11 in 3 months time, and starting secondary school in 6 months time, hijab is something that is on my mind. Girls are hitting puberty earlier these days and puberty is when she will be accountable for her actions. I would really love it if she started her new school wearing hijab.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The Pen has been lifted from three: from the child until he reaches puberty, from the sleeper until he wakes up, and from the one who has lost his mind until he recovers.” (Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4402).
Unfortunately I only started wearing hijab about 3 years ago. My parents never pushed me to wear it and then when they tried to make me wear it when when I was over 18 I rebelled and refused. I then chose to wear it of my own accord. My eldest knows this; she knows I didn’t wear it at school, so is questioning why she should, as she has not grown up seeing me wear it and knows it hasn’t been long that I have worn it.
The other issue is that she does not have many muslim friends. The one muslim girl that she knows at school that is in her class and who wears hijab is a bully (and I hate to say that), but it is not giving her a good impression of girls with hijab.
As a parent my role is to guide her….but I am not going to lie, I am struggling to instill a love of hijab in her. So I am trying to find different ways of trying to help her. When I heard about the book How To Get Hijab Ready I decided to purchase it even though it was from abroad and the shipping makes the whole purchase a bit expensive.
How to Get Hijab Ready: A Guide for Muslim Girls Ages 8 to 11 gives you a simple and easy guide to getting ready to wear hijab. Full of colourful illustrations, tips, and how to guides, you’ll learn how to be confident in hijab, and easily transition into covering when you are ready.
The book is written by mother and daughter team Aisha Elwan & Megan Wyatt. I love that the book is also from the perspective of a young girl as she can truly relate to the fears and hardships that our young girls currently experience.
The book is divided into sections:
- The Basics
- Getting Started
- Having Conversations about Hijab
- Worries and Concerns
- Your Reward for Good Deeds
The basics talk about why muslim girls have to wear hijab, sharing the relevant ayah from the quran, also discusses what age to wear it and also discusses who you don’t have to wear hijab in front of.
This section is more detailed. Things that are discussed include the requirements of hijab, how to put up your hair, the kind of hijabs, how to dress for school, acessories, how to put on hijab and much more.
Having Conversation about Hijab
This section talks about explaining to non muslim friends about hijab and also muslim friends who may not be currently wearing it. In addition to this it also discuses what to say to a stranger in public if they ask.
Worries and Concerns
Everyone who wears hijab can have some issues; from hair falling out of your bun, to feeling hot and the main concern of young girls; being made fun of at school. These issues are covered with advice on how to deal with it.
Your Reward and Good Deeds
This section reinforces that you will get a lot of reward for wearing hijab.
Be proud of who you are, of being a Muslim, and knowing that you have been blessed with a heart that is willing to do what pleases Allah.
What I personally love about the book is that throughout the book you get personal tips from Aisha herself and ‘Aisha says’ boxes. In addition to this, girls reading the book are taught some words they may not have known.
Having tips like this and ‘Aisha Says‘ makes it almost seem like it is a friend talking to you, and other girls should be able to relate to what is being said and take the advice on board.
All 51 pages of the book are full of colourful illustrations; the colours and images use make the whole book have a bit of a ‘girly’ feel; not that there is anything wrong with that.
Is it helping my eldest? I can’t say yet as I am trying not to push her just yet. But she has read it. Only time will tell. May Allah (swt) guide her and all our children on to the correct path! Ameen.
You can find out more about the book on their facebook page: How to Get Hijab Ready.