Asalaam Alaikum/Hi all
One thing that annoyed the hell out of me on my recent trip to Pakistan was the way everyone seemed to think it was OK to comment on the fact I only have one child.
As my friend stated in her guest post here, MYOB!!!
Mind your own business!!
Not once did anyone think to ask me if it was my choice that I still only have one child, but immediately recommended that I go see a fertility doctor.
Now I could have told them all to get lost, as frankly I don’t care what people think of me. However as I was only there for 3 weeks I did not want to upset my in laws and humiliate them by telling people where to go, so I kept my mouth shut and almost bit off my tongue in the process. I also realised that if I got on the defensive and didn’t go see this specialist they would assume that there is something wrong with me and that is why I do not want to see anyone.
I almost lost my temper when people thought it was OK to ask my 5 year old daughter when she was going to get a brother or sister. I was itching to slap them one. What kind of question is that to ask a 5 year old, even in jest?
The icing on the cake was when someone said that if I had another child I could have left one in Pakistan to keep my mother in law company……..yeah when hell freezes over, lady!
I am not sure if this only happens in the Asian community (Pakistani) but it seriously does my head in. It is no ones business but mine and my husbands how many children we have.
So butt out people!!!!!