A couple of lovely bloggers, Marie and Salma, have a project which I have decided to participate in.
Simply, I need to write about what I learnt in 2011.
I initially wasn’t going to post as most of what I have learnt is not particularly positive, but then thought well if that is what I have learnt, then I am going to share it. Life isn’t always perfect anyway.
So what have I learnt?
1. To look after myself and not rely on anyone.
I do care alot for family and friends but I often find that when I need someone, hardly anyone is there to support me, either because they lead their own busy lives or because they are selfish and just expect me to always be there for them but don’t have the time for me.
2. The word ‘family’ means nothing to some people.
I have seen alot of drama in peoples lives, including our own, and I have realised that the word ‘family’ means nothing to some people. They treat their own family like dirt and with no respect. They cannot bear to see people happy and will do anything to try to destroy them. Avoid these people at all costs; even if they are family.
3. I have learnt that talking is good.
I am one of those people that bottles things up. Like a volcano the emotions build up until I let rip. Either by feeling miserable for a few days and crying at anything or just shouting and banging cupboards and dishes for a bit. This year I learnt that it is good to talk. It hasn’t been easy and I have had friends ‘hassling’ me to talk to the people concerned. (Thank you to my friends, you know who you are). This is still something I need to work on as I am not ‘big’ on communicating.
4. I have learnt that being patient is darn hard work!
So if someone is treating you like crap then you get to the stage where you start thinking ‘well I am going to treat them the same way’. Not a good idea. Being the better person always can be tough but you don’t want to stoop to their level.
“…Bear with patience whatever befalls you….” (Qur’an 31:17)
5. Don’t let anyone shatter your dreams.
I have come across people who try to ridicule your ideas and dreams by saying that they are not possible. Be careful as sometimes these people aren’t saying it for your benefit but because they are scared of what you can achieve.
I think I will end here before I depress you all and myself.
Now don’t get me wrong. 2011 wasn’t as bad as this post is making it sound, it is just these are the major things I learnt.
‘Verily, after hardship comes ease.’