Originally posted Tuesday, 7 February 2012
I don’t know if I am just being hormonal and ridiculous but I am offended. Offended by the apparent lack of interest from my friends.
I texted my best friend my news. I did not call her because she is pretty bad at answering the phone. She replied the next day saying congratualtions and how happy she was. Ok great but if my best friend had texted me and told me she was pregnant after so long, I would be jumping for joy and ringing her immediately. She said she would ring me the following weekend. 2 weeks later I am still waiting.
Am I just being hormonal? I feel upset that my freinds dont seem to be bothered. My internet friends are showing more interest: the lovely Humayraa who I have known through the internet for a number of years and Marie who I have only just gotten to know through blogging. Thank you ladies for following and pretty much commenting on every post.
Why bother with ‘friends’ if this is how I am going to be treated?
And I am also offended at people asking for details of my blog and then not even following or commenting. You do not have to follow the blog as I know my pregnancy is not going to interest everyone but if you have read the news will it really kill you to say congratulations, hope your pregnancy goes well and then not follow the blog? Especially those who I have known for a while. Why read my blogs and stalk me if you are not happy for me?! I now wish I had kept this blog totally secret and only invited a few select people to read it.
Nas Feb 8, 2012 03:20 PM
It is quite sad isn't it? The people who are supposed to be there, who are supposed to give you support etc etc just don't seem to give too hoots, with their noses shoved else where. But I guess you know why they're your friends.
I hope and pray your pregnancy goes well insha'Alah.
Oh and thank you for visiting and following my blog.
Foz Feb 10, 2012 06:09 AM
In all honesty I am reconsidering my friendship with the one who hasnt phoned. She is pretty slack at keeping in touch and I am used to it….but this has really hurt me.
MarieHarmonyFeb 10, 2012 09:48 AM
I don't think it's hormonal ranting, I think it is what happens in life really.
I am so happy for you I jump to read each time there is a new post, thought it takes me time to comment sometime!
I understand you are hurt, because best friends are the first we expect to be there, even if it means calling 5 minutes just to say Congratulations and how you are doing!
Six years ago, I did a big clean up in my relationships. It was hard because some people were dear to my heart, but never there for me in times of joy and sadness.
I hope things will get better with your friends.
Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers. Take care dear.
HumayraaFeb 11, 2012 04:36 AM
Hmm… not sure if I'd blame it on hormones, that'd upset me too! Unfortunately this might just be an indication as to whether these ladies are real friends or not. So sorry you've had to face these let downs. (((mega hugs))) In the meantime, your cyber friends are elated for you. I'm even more excited about your pregnancy than I was with my own (last one), lol. Can't wait to read more, in shaa Allaah! Do tell, how are you feeling these days? Are your clothes getting a big tight as yet? Have you gained or lost any weight? Details please. 😀
exactly the reason why I did not ask you for the details. Though I was curious, I knew I probably couldn't keep up with reading it.
But glad to be reading it know.
Tinuke BFeb 13, 2012 02:58 PM
totally don't think it's a hormone thing! I'm offended and I'm not the pregnant one here.
If someone goes out of their way to tell you something as amazing as being pregnant, the least we can do as a friend is be excited, have a phone call with loads of screams and giggles etc.
Don't worry, maybe they have a lot going on in their lives at the moment and haven't even realised how their (lack of) actions may look!
wa alaikum asalaam umm mini, yes am glad I have moved over the posts to this blog. Now everyone can share my news
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