Originally posted Monday, 23 January 2012
So when is the best time to tell people that you are pregnant?
Straight away? After 3 months? After the 1st or 2nd scan?
I know many who won’t say anything for the first 3 months simply for the fear of something going wrong.
My thinking is that if something went wrong I would want the support of my family and friends. And if something is going to go wrong it is going to go wrong whether people know about the pregnancy or not.
When I found out I was pregnant I couldn’t keep quiet, purely out of happiness because we had been trying for so long.
Don’t get me wrong, I am not telling the whole world and their neighbour. I have told my closest friends and immediate family. Oh and my blogging friends!
However I have also told work. I usually wouldn’t have told work this early but because I am booked to go onto some courses and also because the contract I work on is intense and target based I thought I should mention that I may be disappearing in approximately 7/8 months.
HumayraaJan 23, 2012 04:29 PM
I tell my online friends before the pee is dry on the stick, lol. I tell those IRL whom I know for sure will be genuinely happy for me, whenever appropriate opportunities present themselves. I don't tell those who I know will voice their opinions about my procreation practices or those who will try to lecture me. People like that get a birth announcement after the fact.
KarimaJan 23, 2012 11:24 PM
Congratulations on your news. Every person and each pregnancy is different so I don't think there is a correct answer as to when to tell! I have 3 children but have also had a couple of miscarriages so I understand the need to tell but it is also hard to tell people when you have lost a baby too. I have always told immediate close family straight away and when I did work I told my employers as soon as I had to (I was vomiting all the time with morning sickness!). Everyone else didn't find out until after 3 months of pregnancy. I hope your pregnancy goes well, will be thinking of you. Karima
Um ZakaryaJan 24, 2012 05:08 AM
I would myself tell my really close family (parents, sister/brother) straight away, and would wait 3 months to tell everyone else.
here same as Humayraa. Tell people who are genuinely happy first whenever I talk to them, and people who are not I tell after 3 months if family is concerned or otherwise only if question arises.
But offcourse everyone is different in that matter
Wa alaikum asalaam. I have told most people already, well those I want to know. Everyone else, will as you say, if any questions arise will tell them or just tell them when baby arrives inshAllah
Congratulations on the pregnancy! I can't believe I missed the original post – sorry!
When I found out I was pregnant I told my mum and dad and we told my inlaws straight away. I didn't tel my friends or work until I was 3 months pregnant. I found out in November and waited until January to tell everyone so I could tell them in person when I travelled to England.
Wishing you all the best for a healthy and happy pregnancy xxx
Thank you Amalia! x