That is the response which I often have to some of the difficult questions, posed to me by my children. The other day, however, I was left even more dumbfounded on how to explain a particular issue to my sons.
My 4 year old son wanted a pair of earrings. That led to a whole conversation about jewelry and other things being for girls. The problem is that my answers were always countered with what would on the surface appear to be valid points from him.
We live on a society where men wear earrings, nose rings, and just about every other type of jewelry. My children see lots of facial piercings, tattoos, and cross dressing, and anything which looks pretty to them, they want. They are having difficulty grasping the concept that â€˜xâ€™ is for girls and â€˜yâ€™ is for boys, because we live in a messed up society where gender appropriate lines have been blurred. Just like many other parents, I want to protect my children from these things, however, the reality has hit that they are going to see and hear things on topics which I would prefer that they know nothing about, because they go to school and interact with other children; children who may come from homes with â€˜2 daddiesâ€™ or â€˜2 mummiesâ€™, and who are exposed to much more which I donâ€™t even want to think about, much less type.
I caught my boys doing something very inappropriate with each other, and when I spoke to them and questioned why they did it, it turned out that they had seen 2 menâ€¦ ! *gasp*
I am forever trying to find age appropriate ways of explaining to my children why the things they see in the world outside are not acceptable for us to practice, but boy, is it becoming more difficult.