My take on hijab is not unique in any way however it proved to be inspiring for many. It’s always good to know that I have been a motivational figure either intentionally or unintentionally.
Being born and brought up in a Muslim country, it was never really difficult to adopt this symbol of modesty. It was a norm in our family to carry it in different ways. I always added an aesthetic touch to my hijab by mixing and matching scarfs or stolls with my outfits and accessories, focusing mainly on colors and fabrics. I never really liked to look boring or monotonous. However it was always within limits of modesty, covering my full body and hair, not blingy and always loose on my body that is the reason why it inspired some of the sisters around me to wear it too.
I also encountered many sisters in my life who were not accustomed to wearing it and always debated that it’s not an obligatory act and believed that hijab is in Islam but Islam is not in hijab. Well all the lame excuses one can think of came across me and helped me understand two things. I concluded that:
- Firstly , Inspiration or in other words taufeeq comes only from Allah and if someone is unwilling to adopt it then even the Ayat 31 of Surah Nur cannot convince them. However the hijabis should not look down upon them. Instead should keep on inspiring them and invite them towards the right things as this is our duty towards our Muslim sisters. The key is to not force by words instead show by action. Encourage them instead of deflating them. When weak, we should carry each other, not run over each other. Also always remember to praise publicly and advice privately, even your positive words can make them feel as if they are being shamed in front of others. In short, inspire and couch others wisely.
- Secondly, never judge them. When Allah doesn’t want to judge human beings before the Resurrection Day then who we are to do that. We women should be a positive force in this world seeking modesty and spirituality in our hearts and once we do it, hijab comes by itself. Don’t fall into trap of judging others who are not fully practicing yet. If you are among people who at a point in time act as a critic over others wearing it or not, then you are only making them care even less about it. Don’t watch people, instead watch yourself. What do you tell people who prays twice a day, do you tell them to give up entirely until they are ready to pray five times a day! No u don’t, so why discourage women who are not fully compliant to hijab yet. Remember its all about the journey and if you really want to contribute then oh get her that silky hijab or pashmina shawl!!
That’s my two cents in this series of wearing the hijab. Hope u enjoyed reading it.
Written by Saima Asghar: A business graduate and a free lance writer, writing for others, both paid and non-paid. research based and general insight ones.